Friday, January 16, 2009

A Satisfying Swig


Warning: This post contains ranting. Though I typically rant, I am not usually quite so angry. Sip at your own risk.
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Dear Fancy-Pants Pediatrician,
Yes, you are very, very smart. Yes, you went to Berkley and were the chief of pediatrics at a prestigious hospital. Yes, you have been nominated as TOP PED for our county 5 years in a row now. Please accept this cookie as a token of my acknowledgment of your many accomplishments .
You done with that cookie yet?
Now, while your success entitles you to many things (including the Porsche parked in the doctor lot), it DOES NOT entitle you to:
  • Treat parents as if they are idiots. Your reference to believing in Dr. Sears' vaccine book is akin to "believing the world is flat" was VERY INSULTING. May I remind you that doctors once believed that leeches were the cure for many ailments. You can see how well that worked out.
  • Perhaps it would also be nice to know SOMETHING, ANYTHING about the child's parents. If you tell this former kinder teacher one more time to "read to your child daily" I am going hit you upside the head with my copy of The Hungry Caterpillar.
  • Develop some sort of bedside manner. That 2 second hand shake when you walk in might also be nice followed by a "How are you guys doing?" "What's Noah up to lately?" "How was his birthday?" Maybe pat Noah on the head, give him a hug, perhaps SMILE? Maybe just start with smile, we don't want to have to pay extra or anything.

All these requests are to be fulfilled ASAP. This mommy is currently searching for a new pediatrician. And while you may have lost this family, you wouldn't want it to get around that you are an arrogant a-hole. It may tarnish that crown just a bit.

Sincerely,

Noah's Mommy

25 comments:

Erin, Nick and Merrick said...

Oh no! That is the WORST!
I once had a doctor who, after I asked what was a very important quesion TO ME, stop what he was doing, take off his glasses, stare at me and say "Argg, you must be a new mom or something."
I went CRAZY!
We know you are busy/see a million faces a day/etc.....but atleast read the chart and know our names when you walk in the door!
Sorry you had to go thru that!

L & W said...

I can definitely relate to that! We've had a string of peds who think they walk on water. We lucked out with the one we have now, but seeing as he is a military doctor, he'll have to move on orders sometime soon and we'll be back at square one searching for a decent doc with bedside manners.

ScrapCandy.com said...

Ugh! I had an OB just like this. So obnoxious! Left her practice when I was 30 weeks pg. and never looked back! Found the bestest OB and now steer everyone I can away from the first!

Hope you find a good peds soon!

Tracy

sandy said...

This is why I only see female peds with children. I had a man one time last year. He treated me like this was my first child. Hello, I have five! What a jerk!

Noah's Mommy said...

Clap Clap Clap Clap Clap....Lord do I feel your pain....you want to tell them where they can put their PHD.....

SuZ said...

Amen.

Luckily, my girl's ped is amazing. Sadly, my own doctor sucks like this. I just want to punch him everytime I see him.

Eudea-Mamia said...

I'm so sorry your ped is such a jerk!

I wish you lived in my neck of the woods. I worship mine, literally, I have a shrine. She's getting close to retirement, and I'm very, very sad.

She ends each visit with a "and how's Mom doing?"

Did I mention I worship her?

I wish you loads of luck in finding another!!

Jen said...

you need to RUN away from him!

Rachael said...

i agree, run, run, run as fast as you can...what a jerk! good luck finding a new pedi!

Ashley said...

Wow! That's awful! I wouldn't think mean people like that would get into peds. I agree - find another one!

Yaya said...

Bedside manner is HUGE to me. I've burned through more doctors than 5 average patients in their whole life. If I don't like a doc, I move on. I'm spending way too much money to not have someone pay attention to me.
I say, move on.
Lord help me when I'm in the market for a pediatrician...I'll totally be one of those annoying Moms that interviews and asks a zillion questions.

Hula's Secret Blog said...

uh oh....I"m drinking cab sauv while reading this....am I gonna get disciplined for that?

Braja said...

I really hope you leave this letter under his door when you go....

Emelia said...

Give 'em hell Rachel! Nobody, and I mean NOBODY, ever deserves to be treated that way. I hope you gave that Pediatrician a piece of your mind.

DiPaola Momma said...

GO GET EM MOMMA! I simply can't stand doctors like that.. it should be a freaking REQUIREMENT to have beside mannor traning in med school ESPECIALY FOR A PEDS DOC!!! It's that God syndrome they have.. I say we all get our Hungry Catapilar books and march on his offices! When we moved to Maryland I interviewed doctors for my kids. A sure fire way to NOT get my business (and several of them DID this) was respond to my requests for interviews with shock and indignation.. "WOW, I've NEVER had a parent interview ME".. well babe it's my kids.. you'd interview a nanny why the HELL would it seem odd or out of place to interview the person you trust with their HEALTH! Rant SUPPORTED!

Kati Sue* said...

Eww! I would get a new PED ASAP!! Heck.. even our family doctor is kinder than that.. he remembers about us.. and the kids.. wow!

jenn said...

That sounds awful. I'm so glad I've found a good pediatrician. I guess I just got lucky. He's really good with Shiloh and treats me like I know what I'm doing. He even spends time talking to me. And I love how he assumes the best. Like when she was having ear infections he mentioned mentioned that second hand smoke can make it worse. But he started by saying that he was sure I already knew and he didn't think I smoked or would let anyone smoke around her. That's true, but he had no way of knowing it.

I hope you find a good doctor. Good luck! It's so important to trust your child's doctor. (Shiloh's ear doctor acted the way your pediatrician does. I would have never gone back to him except her pediatrician convinced me to go back, telling me he was the best one to do the surgery. It all worked out well but the guy was a jerk.)

MOMMY-MOMO said...

well said. They forget sometimes that you are hiring them!!!

Tasha said...

Luckily we have found an awesome pediatrician... everytime I walk out of her office I tell anyone that I am with how much I love her. Good luck on your search, it can be frustrating!

Jay @halftime lessons said...

Good for you, Rachel...they forget sometimes that this is a business, too, and some degree of humanity is in order.

Ask all your friends, find a great one, and get outta there.

Way to go,
Jay

Amy McMean a.k.a McSunshine said...

If i was a mommy, which I'm not, I might have left him a noah surprise on that shiny nice car.

Kristin said...

Get out of there ASAP! As a pediatric nurse I have seen my share off jerk pediatricians. They are not worth your business. Find a place that you feel comfortable with and most importantly that your kids like. Your baby wont be little forever and the pediatrician may be his doctor during the teen years. He needs to have a rapport with your child then. My pedi knows all of us by our first names and chats and plays with the kids. We usually have 30+ minute waits at the office and he is worth waiting for. I imagine that the wait is caused by him taking time to listen to all the other neurotic moms like he listens to me.
***stepping off my soapbox now***
HUGS! Hope you find someone better soon.

Yaya said...

hugs award for you at my blog!

Lisa said...

I wish that I didn't have this experience to add. I was told repeatedly to go home and relax, because it was my imagination that my newborn had a bunch of weird symptoms. She was 100% healthy according to three different doctors in the practice. Idiots!

When my daughter was three weeks old, I was finally told to head immediately to the cardiology department at the hospital. Ooops, we sort of missed the fact that you baby has congestive heart failure and needs surgery.

Bar-b said...

I swear to God (swear to god) that I would copy this blog entry and tape it on a tin of cookies and give it to him.

Condescending eff tard.

Oh and please Rachel, can you read to Noah? K? thanks.